One day you realize that everything seems easier. You’re not having to check your thinking or the words coming out of your mouth. You’ve eased into a flow that seems effortless and wonder when this happened?
This happens when your heart and soul are in alignment with what you do and the way you behave. This is the embodiment of authenticity and reaching this place is the result of hard work.
So what does being authentic mean? It means being true to oneself. I found an article in Psychology Today that explains this very well. Authentic people:
- Have realistic perceptions of reality.
- Are accepting of themselves and of other people.
- Are thoughtful.
- Have a non-hostile sense of humor.
- Are able to express their emotions freely and clearly.
- Are open to learning from their mistakes.
- Understand their motivations.
The first steps in moving from inauthenticity to authenticity were becoming aware that you were in regular if not constant internal conflict, then awakening to the reality of this uncomfortable state of being and discovering that there were people who could help you and tools you could use to make important changes. Finding the courage to move out of a state of denial or inertia and into action is where you’ve been most recently and now reaching this state of ease is evidence that you’ve transitioned through the process of deep change – maybe not for everything that has caused you pain but at least for what has been most problematic at the time.
Whenever those old feelings of inauthenticity arise, and they will, this underlying system of awareness, awakening, discovery, courage, action and flow will help you move through the necessary work to identify and change those mindsets that set you up. You can begin the process again – dismantling old patterns, behaviors and habits while creating new ones allowing you to be in flow again.
I’ve written about these stages of change frequently and I’m inviting you to take a look at these older posts and let me know what you think. Here’s a link to my last blog about flow. Enjoy the reading, the process and being in flow.
Authenticity means erasing the gap between what you firmly believe inside and what you reveal to the outside world.
~ Adam Grant